Administering Peace
Take Responsibility
You need to talk to all of those who were
impacted. Be thorough.
Who has been impacted?
What happened?
Talk about exactly what you did
including your assumptions and
judgments. Talk about how what you did effected the
other person’s feelings. Being sincere is needful.
How will you talk
to the other person?
Be careful.
You don't want to add fuel to the fire.
Avoid making excuses such as
If you hadn’t…
I did this but you did...
Maybe it was wrong but…
Where do I need to change?
It seems like a contradiction, but the deeper you can see inside yourself and the more openly you take responsibility, the farther you go in resolving the conflict.
Acknowledge, understand and accept that there are results of what you did wrong.
Commit to change: what will you do differently in the future? How will you change your assumptions and judgments? Be thorough.
When to ask for forgiveness…
When you have completely covered the earlier questions: who, what how and where, ask for forgiveness
Ask for forgiveness for your actions, assumptions and judgments.
Freedom comes through forgiveness.
Be thorough.